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DIAGNOSIS 

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Sexual
Behavior

Problematic
Sexual
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Hyper-Sexuality

Impulse
Control
Disorder

Values
Conflict

Trauma

The Stages of Change

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Who, What & How We Help

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This is what it looks                  like to others

...and This

is what it feels like

        to your partner

The Intimacy Difficulty Spectrum

As we define it here at CORE, Intimacy Avoidance is somewhat different from intimacy anorexia (or “IA,” as popularly defined by Dr. Doug Weiss as the “active withholding of emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy from a spouse or partner”) By Dr. Weiss' definition, intimacy anorexia is known by the anorexic—and yet they continue the behavior in spite of the consequences. ADD: WHICH WAS AN EXPANSION OF PATRICK CARNES' IDEA OF SEXUAL ANOREXIA

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In our experience, intimacy anorexia is part of an Intimacy Avoidance continuum, positioned at one end of that spectrum. Intimacy Avoidance and Intimacy Anorexia can overlap and can be hard to differentiate. This difficulty happens when an avoidant individual has developed a conscious understanding of what they are doing (no more denial) but either do not, or cannot, change the behavior and continue to cause cycles of pain for their spouse or partner AND for themselves.

 

Regardless of its position on the continuum, Intimacy Avoidance in any degree is an excruciatingly painful interpersonal dynamic, causing relational trauma for both parties within a relationship.

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Find Out if You or Your Partner suffer from a form of Intimacy Aversion:

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Why Us?

We see People, not problems…

  

…So, we create unique, completely customized, healing intensives full of emotional hospitality exclusively for you based on your specific needs;

No formulas, no generic approaches, no fitting you into a mold...

Because you are not everyone else

...and You are our total focus while you are with us.

 

We Are About Relational Healing:

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         Our core belief is that we become our whole selves not alone, but in relationship. In creating a new unity that grows from truth, meaning, mutual creation, and deep connection, we have the greatest potential to realize our highest selves. 

The beauty of healing and creating your new coupleship together is in its sheer, synergistic power that heals more quickly and creates bonds of strength and depth, not trauma or habit.          In true collaborative intimacy, that is full of truth, connection, empathy, and vulnerability, lives your new relationship.

How We Help You Heal:

 

         Each of us has a unique history, a different learning style, personality-type, and ways in which we process emotions and information.

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Because of this, we, at Core, have found that the most effective, and fastest, way to healing is to work with who you are, how you tend to relate to others, how your life experiences have taught you to act and react, and where that is helpful or can be adjusted because it creates difficulty in your love relationship         We do this through our knowledgeable and intuitive approach that uses our We-Ness Model® including Re-Coupling and our Relational Companioning & Support method , with feeling-centered, direct-access, non-verbal, experiential, trauma and emotional healing (right-brain) modalities as well as left-brain behavioral and cognitive modalities that inform and enhance understanding.          In the two stages of your Re-Coupling®, Hope-For-Us and All-About-Us, we help you truly hear, see and get each other, so that miscommunication, misperception, and protective distancing no longer disrupt your lives.

Using our unique approach, we help you, as a couple, see, understand and work with your differences; honoring and holding each other in awe and wonder while learning how to collaboratively and lovingly connect.

Relationally Problematic Issues

  • I've had Intimacy & Sexual Issues/Behaviors, such as infidelity, that are a Problem for me or my partner

  • I've watched Pornography more than I, or my partner, think is okay

  • I've shared my emotional issues, even about my marriage, with others that my partner wouldn't approve of (Inappropriately Directed Intimacy)

  • I have engaged in infidelity, once or multiple times

  • I identify, or have been diagnosed, as having; Compulsive Sexual Behavior, Love/Romance Addiction, Pornography overuse/compulsion/addiction, Hypersexuality, Sex Addiction, Problematic Sexual Behavior, or other Sexual/Intimacy/Betrayal/Infidelity issue

  • I am uncomfortable with, or avoid; closeness, sharing feelings,  sharing who I am (Intimacy Adversity/Aversion /Avoidance)

  • I Fantasize about Other People or a Different Life  (sexually or otherwise)

BEHAVIORS

  • Impulsivity or Boredom

  • Being Pre-occupied or Feeling Obsessed

  • It feels Like I have No Choice...

  • I am seeing an increase in the amount, variation or frequency

  • I'm Keeping Secrets 

  • Before each time, I do the same thing/have a ritual

  • I wasn't really aware of it being as big a problem as it is

  • I denied my behaviors, even to myself!

  • I hid/hide my behaviors 

  • I've sought out help

  • I, or my behaviors hurt people I care about; Emotionally, Financially, and/or Physically

  • I've had Consequences:   Relational, Emotional & Physical Health, Work Issue, STDs, Legal, Shame, Loss of Integrity

  • I've disregarded consequences

  • I've felt depressed and/or anxious

  • I had negative experiences in my childhood (e.g. Trauma, Neglect, Abuse)

  • I feel SHAME

 INDICATORS

Relationally Problematic Issues

INDICATORS

  • Impulsivity or Boredom

  • Being Pre-occupied or Feeling Obsessed

  • It feels Like I have No Choice...

  • I am seeing an increase in the amount, variation or frequency

  • I'm Keeping Secrets 

  • Before each time, I do the same thing/have a ritual

  • I wasn't really aware of it being as big a problem as it is

  • I denied my behaviors, even to myself!

  • I hid/hide my behaviors 

  • I've sought out help

  • I, or my behaviors hurt people I care about; Emotionally, Financially, and/or Physically

  • I've had Consequences:   Relational, Emotional & Physical Health, Work Issue, STDs, Legal, Shame, Loss of Integrity

  • I've disregarded consequences

  • I've felt depressed and/or anxious

  • I had negative experiences in my childhood (e.g. Trauma, Neglect, Abuse)

  • I feel SHAME

BEHAVIORS

  • I've had Intimacy & Sexual Issues/Behaviors, such as infidelity, that are a Problem for me or my partner

  • I've watched Pornography more than I, or my partner, think is okay

  • I've shared my emotional issues, even about my marriage, with others that my partner wouldn't approve of (Inappropriately Directed Intimacy)

  • I have engaged in infidelity, once or multiple times

  • I identify, or have been diagnosed, as having; Compulsive Sexual Behavior, Love/Romance Addiction, Pornography overuse/ compulsion/ addiction, Hypersexuality, Sex Addiction, Problematic Sexual Behavior, or other Sexual/Intimacy/Betrayal/Infidelity issue

  • I am uncomfortable with, or avoid; closeness, sharing feelings,  sharing who I am (Intimacy Adversity/ Intimacy Aversion /Intimacy Avoidance /Intimacy Anorexia)

  • I Fantasize about Other People or a Different Life  (sexually or otherwise)

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